Scene from a Pursuer Distancer Relationship: Partner 1: I wish you would pick up your stuff in the living room. Partner 2: What? Well, I've walked the dog, paid the bills, and worked all day. I can't get to it. Partner…
Here is how Mark and Elena used to spend time together: Here are Mark and Elena now, enjoying a moment of emotional connection: What's the difference? Mark and Elena noticed a distance that wasn't there before. So they did something about…
Each of us has a basic human need for love. The need for a secure bond is hardwired in us from birth. But we are not born knowing how to express our emotional needs in words. We need to learn about meeting…
Sharing your fun side is easy in a relationship. We want to be with someone who's fun, sexy, kind and upbeat. But seeing and expressing emotional needs in a relationship can be a huge challenge. Do you feel safe sharing your…
Do you have places you like to go, just because it feels good to be there? We thought about the places that make us smile when we visit. These are our personal choices. They don't cost anything. They aren't complicated. They…
Love feels so good when it starts, it’s hard to imagine feeling any other way. But if your loved one compliments you twice, and complains about you once, guess what sticks in your mind? Humans naturally focus on what’s wrong. It’s…
How do you feel about the holiday season? Many of us have emerged from dysfunctional, chemically altered, abusive, negligent or toxic family relationships. Merely the thought of facing these people again can set off a firestorm of triggers. You may feel…
Disagreeing with loved one's isn't necessarily bad. What hurts is when you don't know how to fix problems in a relationship. Misunderstandings between you and someone you love can trigger some of the worst stress in your life. These tips can…
Does your partner get defensive? When you try to discuss something, do you think: “I can’t talk to him without him getting mad” “Why is my wife so defensive?” “My husband gets defensive when I tell him how I feel” When…
We all have a deep hunger to be known, respected and loved. But we fear being vulnerable, which is essential to being present with another. Why is being vulnerable so hard? Our need to belong is essential to our wellbeing. But…
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