Do you find yourself more easily upset during as the end of the year draws near?  Sometimes the stress of extra activity can make tempers flare in our relationship more often than usual.

In a loving partnership, it’s okay to be mad at each other sometimes. Angry feelings don’t always damage a loving relationship – we just need to learn how to talk with our mate when we’re upset.

Sometimes we just need to let our feelings and needs show honestly.  If your partner asks you what wrong, a hurtful answer is “You should know by now!” Instead, just say it. “I’m mad because you’re late, and I am overwhelmed having to take care of so many things without your help.” “Clean anger” is specific and focused on behavior rather than personality. It works wonders to get your message through without being hurtful.

And always helps to ‘fess up when you mess up.’  Perfection is not required for a happy life together.  Attending and mending hurts is much more important to living well together. An apology well-done can work wonders.

Learn More from the Science of Love

Here are more ways you can enjoy insights on building a more loving intimate partnership:

• An article to help you talk with your partner when you’re upset
• A list of books we recommend for insight into the new science of love
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Happy Holiday Wishes

All of us at the Mount Vernon Family Therapy Center are grateful for you for sharing your journey of greater well-being with us. We wish you a happy and joyful December.